Poor relationships create most of the unhappiness and dissatisfaction we experience in our lives. When we shift the focus to what we do have control over, our behavior, the quality of our relationships will improve.

Couples counseling is most effective when the partners choose to take responsibility for their behavior allowing the other to make his or her own choices. Couples who commit to learning and then practicing relationship-building habits will enjoy greater intimacy.

Every effort should be made to preserve relationships; however, during the course of counseling, partners sometimes come to feel that they cannot reconcile their differences. Transitions, however painful, can be managed with the help of a caring counselor. The goal is to build a future that preserves the best of the past while reducing conflict and increasing cooperation for the benefit of children as well as ourselves.